University Degree At Age 52: After 30 Years Of Broadcast Media Experience.
Welcome To World Of VOO. The Journey Through Life Series.
My Bucket List; University Degree, An Achievement Worth Celebrating!
Why am I celebrating a 1st university degree at age 52, when my mates already have a Ph.D.?
When you have no headstart In life, everything appears impossible like a tall dream. One can only keep trying.
Picture this: your father tells you that he won't send you to the university and that he is not in a position to pay for an apprenticeship.
While you're trying to navigate life and find your level, this father gets to the end of his earthly journey and dies. Then you're left at the mercy of his family, who have enough responsibilities of their own.
The Lingering Trauma
Life changed drastically for me in 1989 after my biological father died. It appeared like a joke initially, but my siblings and I soon realized that we were set for many years of struggle and suffering.
My immediate senior brother- my best friend in the whole wide world, died in the struggle. He was involved in fuel smuggling during a petroleum scarcity in Nigeria and got caught up in a fire incident. He sustained 3rd degrees burns and died 3 days later in the hospital. I still can't get over it.
Unfortunately, I have no relationship with my biological mother who 'abandoned' me with my father's family when I was just 5 years old. Now that I have children of my own, I still find it difficult to understand how a mother could do that to her child.
I chose to run away from my father's family when I couldn't see a future for myself, and I ended up with my boyfriend- the worst decision of my life at age 20.
I suffered like a house girl. I experienced abuse and uncertainty, but I couldn't return to my father's family. Oh, I tried to return, but I was rejected.
So, I decided to carry my cross and fend for myself.
Why I am Indifferent About Festive Periods
When my mates return home to their families during festive periods, I had nowhere to go, so I remained with my then boyfriend and his mother and siblings.
Life was tough. I was just like a housegirl. I endured insults and name-calling. I was labeled a witch. I experienced domestic violence, and several painful D & Cs. I tried to endure everything because I thought that's what you do as a woman if you want your man's family to like you, especially if you don't have anywhere else to go.
Long story cut short, one day I had an escape, that led to the beginning of my broadcast media career in Nigeria. (I'll tell you more about my broadcast media career in my next blog).
Zero Tolerance To Bitterness
While I tried to further my education several times, I dropped out for lack of financial capacity.
Instead of becoming bitter, I chose to make my life better.
I learned everything I could along the way, just to generate income.
If you're a parent, you owe your children the provision to help them get a good headstart in life, while you can. Anything can happen at any time.
Finally! Sky Is Not The Limit, It's The Begining
This woman who was once called a 'failure who will amount to nothing' I stand tall today, and I bless the name of the Most High God, for the opportunity to complete my degree at the University of Greenwich, London.
I hope to go further till I obtain my Ph.D. God help me.
Dreams do come true. Don't give up!
Veronica Olabisi Obadara
BA H MEDIA & COMMUNICATIONS
Studied Advanced Projects, Filmmaking for Change, and Journalism